Andekha na kare bachche ki pahli mistake. Yahi ban sakti hai unke bigadne ki wajah.
Aksar bachche galti karte hain aur parents use andekha kr dete hain. Bachche ki galati maaf karna apke or aapke bachche dono ke future ke liye harmful ho sakta hai. Aaj mai aapse is subject me baat karunga ki Bachche ki pahli galti par use kis tarah treat kare. Iske liye pahle aap apne aap se kuch sawaal puche . Jaise ki ~
- Bachhe ki pahli galati ko apne notice kia ya nahi.
- Agar aapne notice kia to us par aapka reaction kya tha.
- Aapke reaction ka bachche par kya effect pada.
Har ghar me mummy ya papa me se koi ek aisa hota hai jo apne bachche ko rote huye nahi dekh sakta. Jyadatar jaise ki sab jaante hain ki betiyo ke liye aisa pyar dad ko aur beto ke liye mom ko hota hai. Waise to bachcho ke pyar ko mom or dad ke beech baanta nahi ja sakta lekin fir bhi bachcha jab bada hokar koi galat kam karta hai to doshi ek dushre ko thaharaya jata hai ki apke laad pyar ne bachche ko bigaad dia. Lekin tab sirf pachhtane ke alawa apke pas koi chaara nahi hota.
Sabhi maante hain ki bachche shishtachar or sanskar apne ghar se hi sikhte hain. Maa baap hi bachcho ka pahla school hote hai jahan wo bolne se lekar chalna tak sikhte hain. Parivar garib ho ya ameer har Maa-Baap apne bachche ko achi parvarish dena chahta hai.
Maan lo ki aap apne hisab se apne bachche ko acchhi se achhi shiksha de rhe hain lekin fir bhi aage chal kar bachcha kuch aisi chije karta hai jo apko bilkul hi surprise kar deta hai. Tab kuch logo ko samajh nahi aata ki aakhir galti kahan huyi. Chaliye mai aapko btata hu ki aapse galti kahan huyi. Wese to market me ya online is tarah ki kayi books apko mil jayegi. Jinka title hoga bachcho ko achchi shiksha kaise de ya bachcho ka sahi palan poshan kaise kare. Jyadatar is books me unki professional ya kuch jyada hi uljhi huyi language prayog ki gayi hoti hai. Jisse aapko samajhne me problem hoti hai. Is liye mai apko apki apni bolchal ki language me bataunga.
Hakikat me galti aapse nahi aapke thode se andekhe pan se hoti hai.
Aap ke alawa apka bachcha samaaj me or bhi logo ke touch me hota hai. Dhyaan dijiye ki unka rahan sahan or bolne chalne ka tarika kaisa hai. Bachcha har us baat par dhyan deta hai jo uske ird gird hoti rahti hai. Is liye apne saath saath dusro ke sath bachcho ka kaisa behaviour hai yebhi dekhte rhe.
Ab ham aate hain topic par ' Your child's first mistake'
Is topic par shayad aapko lag rha hoga ki bachche ki pahli mistake se kya matlab hai. Ise to shayad koi notice bhi nahi karta hoga kyoki galati karne ki koi umar nahi hoti us par pahli galti to bachcha bolna or chalna sikhne ke dauran hi kar deta hoga. ( Dhyan rahe ki pahli galti se mera matlab anaitik ya unethical mistake se hai jise ki society me bura mana jata ho.) Unethical mistakes ki baat kare to jaise kisi ko maarne gaali dene ya bina baat ke roothne jaisi harkate.
Bachcho ke dular me maa baap in baato ka jaan boojh kar ignore kar dete hai or ise majaak me lekar chhod dete hain kuch ki to baat hi mat pucho wo in baato ko hasi ka ek jariya bana kar sabko batate firte hain or khus hote hain jaise mere bete ne apni totli awaaj me fala fala gaali di. Tab aapko ye lagta hai ki abhi bachcha hai sikhte sikhte sikh jayega. Lekin wakt gujar jata hai or apaka bachcha usi mahaul me dhal jata hai. Isi tarah bina baat ke aap par ya ghar par ya bahar kisi ke upar haath uthaana ya maarna bhi log majaak me le lete hain or whan bhi unki soch yahi hoti ki bada ho jayega to khud samajhdar ho jayega. Or fir maarna ya haath uthane jaisi baate har koi samajhadar hone ke baad samajhne lagta hai. Ye koi badi baat nahi.
Yakin maaniye ye bahut badi baat hai bachche ki pahli mistake or us par aapka reation bahut mayane rakhta hai. Uske baad to bas aapka ishaara hi kaafi hota hai. Agar aap abhi se uski aisi activity ko ignore karenge to use lagne lgega ki aap uske har activity ko support krenge chahe wo achi ho ya buri.
Yahan mai aapko ek chhoti si kahani ka example deta hu. Ek raja ne man banaya ki aaropi ya doshi ke baare me pahle ye pta lgaya jaye ki ye unki pahli galti ya apraadh hai ya isse pahli galtiya karte aaye hain. Jis aparadhi ki pahli galti ya pahla apradh hoga use maaf kar diya jayega lekin dusri galti ke liye sidhe maut ki saja di jayegi. Pahle to logo me maut ki saja ka dar baith gya lekin kuch dino baad har aaropi hatya ya balatkaar ke aarop me aane lga. Kaaran rajya me kuch aise log bhi the jo nirapradh logo ko uksaane lge ki pahli galti to maf hai fir kya dar. Raja ko samajhne me der nahi lagi or usne turat apna decision badal dia.
Ab agar aap soch rahe hain ki is kahani ka or aapke bachche ka kya lena dena hai to aap is kahani ko dobara padhiye or tab tak padhte rahiye jab tak aapko iske pichhe ka hint na samajh aa jaye. Is kahani ka matalb mai aapko article ke end me bataunga lekin agar aapko sach me is kahani ka koi sambandh aapke bachche ki parvarish se samajh nahi aya to please dobaara is kahani ko jarur padhe fir aage badhe.
Aapka bachcha pahli galati kare ya bar baar kre agar aap ise serious nahi le rahe hain to ab lena shuru kijiye.
Ek rumar (afwaah) hai kyoki maine pets (paaltu jaanwar) to kabhi nahi paale is liye maine iska practicle nahi kia. Lekin aap logo se share jarur karna chahunga. Log pets (jyadatar dog par aajmaya hua) paalte hai to use ghumane ke liye subah subah ghar se baahar le jaate hain. Iske saath unka main purpose ye hota hai ki dog gandagi bhi bahar hi kare or ghar ganda na kare. Fir bhi kuch pets parshan krte hain or ghar me hi gandagi karte hain. Iske liye kuch log jab dog ko pahli baar laate hain or wo ghar par gandagi karta hai to wo dog ko us gandagi ke paas le jaakar khich kar ek chappal maarte hain. Waise to ye idea kafee kaargar sabit hota hai or dog ko pahli hi baar me samajh me aa jata hai ki usne kya galti kar di or agar kuch kasar rah jaati hai to dusari baar me wo pura sabak le chuke hote hain. Aur result ye nikalta hai ki agar wo chain se bandh diye jaaye to bhi gandgi ghar ke andar nahi krte. Chappal ka istemaan isliye kia jata hai kyoki jaanwar bejubaan hote hai unko bolkar samjhana muskil hota hai. Lekin maar se unhe ye sabak milta hai ki unhone galti kar di or 'pahli baar ki galti' me hi ye maar isliye lagayi jaati hai ki unki aadat na ban jaaye. Yani ki aage ki paresani na ho isiliye.
Insaan me achchayi ye hai ki wo bol bhi sakta hai or sun or samajh bhi sakta hai. Isliye in chijo ki jaroorat nahi pdti. Aapko sirf in sab me sirf ek chij assume krni 'pahli baar ki galti' par gaur karne ki.
Yahan ye batana jaruri tha halaaki baat aapke bachche ki chal rahi thi or maine pets ko bhi samajha dala ki gandgi kahan karni hai. ☺
Agar baat aapke bachche ki chal rahi hai to use sirf aapke ek daant (डाँट) ki jarurat hai wo bhi tab jab wo pahli galti kare.
Pahli galti or aapka ignore karna use is baat ka feel deta hai ki aapke bachche ne koi galat kaam nahi kia. Pahli galti or agar aapne uska majaak bna ke hasi me liya to ye baat use ye feel degi ki usne galat nahi balki bahut hi acha kaam kia hai or ho sakta wo same thing aapke saamne wahin par dohraaye. Lekin Bachche ki pahli galti or aapki daant (डांट) use yah ehasaas dilayegi ki usne galti kar di hai yaani usne jo kia wo unethical hai matlab aap logo ki najar me thik nahi hai or aisi galtiyo par use aage dar bna rahega. Dar bahut badi chij hai chahe wo jis chij ke liye hai.
Agar aap unme se hain jo aisi activities hasi me lenge to matlab aapne notice kar lia hai ki aapke bachche ne kya kia lekin aapne uski mistake ko ignore kia to iska ek matlab ho sakta hai aapne notice hi na kia ho. To agar aapne ab tak aisi baat ko najarandaaz kia hai to agli baar jarur notice kre or ek chhota sa sabak jarur de taki use achche bure ka fark samay se pata chal jaaye. Kyoki agar ek baar koi bhi galti aapne 1 se 2 baar ignore ki to wo uski aadat me shumaar ho jayegi.
Ab baari aati hai aapke reaction ka aapke bachche pr kya effect padta hai. Agar bachcha itna samajhne layak hai ki aapki daant ko samajh sake to ho sakta hai wo iske reply me aapke saath aise pesh aaye ki ' jaise usne itni badi galti to nahi ki jitna aapne use daant dia ' to use pyar se samajhaye ki galti akhir galti hoti hai. Or aage se ise na dohraye. Kuch kam samajhdar bachcho par aapki ye daant hi kaafi hai unhe or kuch bataane ki jarurat nahi hai. Is tarah bas ek ya do treat ke baad aapko iska result milne lagega.
Meri upar di hui kahani ka is article se matlab. Dusari galti par sajaa sabko maloom hote huye bhi log pahli galti ka pura fayda uthane lage. Kyoki pahla apraadh maaf tha.
Isliye jab tak aap ignore karte jayenge tab tak unki galti unki najar me galti nahi hogi. Wo to saari normal activities jaisi hi hogi. Or jis din aap unhe pahli baar unki galti ke liye tokenge 'wo hogi unki pahli galti'. Or PAHLI GALTI MAAF ka siddhant to bahut purana hai to.
Mujhe ummed hai maine bahut hi saral tarike se aapko ye bta dia ki bachche ki pahli galti ignore kare ya na kare. Is post se sirf aapko yah ehasas krana tha ki kahi aapke bachche ke moh me aapse koi galti to nahi ho rahi. Mer khyal se aapke dimag me ab aisa khyaal kabhi nahi aayega ki mera bachcha galtiyo pe galtiya karta hai mai kya kru? Aur haan bachche ko iske liye treat ya daant bhi bade hi dhyan se dena hai jisse unke dil me aapke liye thoda dar baithe na ki kadwahat. Agar apke man me ise lekar koi sawaal hai to comment box me puch sakte hain. Happy living
Sabhi maante hain ki bachche shishtachar or sanskar apne ghar se hi sikhte hain. Maa baap hi bachcho ka pahla school hote hai jahan wo bolne se lekar chalna tak sikhte hain. Parivar garib ho ya ameer har Maa-Baap apne bachche ko achi parvarish dena chahta hai.
Maan lo ki aap apne hisab se apne bachche ko acchhi se achhi shiksha de rhe hain lekin fir bhi aage chal kar bachcha kuch aisi chije karta hai jo apko bilkul hi surprise kar deta hai. Tab kuch logo ko samajh nahi aata ki aakhir galti kahan huyi. Chaliye mai aapko btata hu ki aapse galti kahan huyi. Wese to market me ya online is tarah ki kayi books apko mil jayegi. Jinka title hoga bachcho ko achchi shiksha kaise de ya bachcho ka sahi palan poshan kaise kare. Jyadatar is books me unki professional ya kuch jyada hi uljhi huyi language prayog ki gayi hoti hai. Jisse aapko samajhne me problem hoti hai. Is liye mai apko apki apni bolchal ki language me bataunga.
Hakikat me galti aapse nahi aapke thode se andekhe pan se hoti hai.
Aap ke alawa apka bachcha samaaj me or bhi logo ke touch me hota hai. Dhyaan dijiye ki unka rahan sahan or bolne chalne ka tarika kaisa hai. Bachcha har us baat par dhyan deta hai jo uske ird gird hoti rahti hai. Is liye apne saath saath dusro ke sath bachcho ka kaisa behaviour hai yebhi dekhte rhe.
Ab ham aate hain topic par ' Your child's first mistake'
Is topic par shayad aapko lag rha hoga ki bachche ki pahli mistake se kya matlab hai. Ise to shayad koi notice bhi nahi karta hoga kyoki galati karne ki koi umar nahi hoti us par pahli galti to bachcha bolna or chalna sikhne ke dauran hi kar deta hoga. ( Dhyan rahe ki pahli galti se mera matlab anaitik ya unethical mistake se hai jise ki society me bura mana jata ho.) Unethical mistakes ki baat kare to jaise kisi ko maarne gaali dene ya bina baat ke roothne jaisi harkate.
Bachcho ke dular me maa baap in baato ka jaan boojh kar ignore kar dete hai or ise majaak me lekar chhod dete hain kuch ki to baat hi mat pucho wo in baato ko hasi ka ek jariya bana kar sabko batate firte hain or khus hote hain jaise mere bete ne apni totli awaaj me fala fala gaali di. Tab aapko ye lagta hai ki abhi bachcha hai sikhte sikhte sikh jayega. Lekin wakt gujar jata hai or apaka bachcha usi mahaul me dhal jata hai. Isi tarah bina baat ke aap par ya ghar par ya bahar kisi ke upar haath uthaana ya maarna bhi log majaak me le lete hain or whan bhi unki soch yahi hoti ki bada ho jayega to khud samajhdar ho jayega. Or fir maarna ya haath uthane jaisi baate har koi samajhadar hone ke baad samajhne lagta hai. Ye koi badi baat nahi.
Yakin maaniye ye bahut badi baat hai bachche ki pahli mistake or us par aapka reation bahut mayane rakhta hai. Uske baad to bas aapka ishaara hi kaafi hota hai. Agar aap abhi se uski aisi activity ko ignore karenge to use lagne lgega ki aap uske har activity ko support krenge chahe wo achi ho ya buri.
Yahan mai aapko ek chhoti si kahani ka example deta hu. Ek raja ne man banaya ki aaropi ya doshi ke baare me pahle ye pta lgaya jaye ki ye unki pahli galti ya apraadh hai ya isse pahli galtiya karte aaye hain. Jis aparadhi ki pahli galti ya pahla apradh hoga use maaf kar diya jayega lekin dusri galti ke liye sidhe maut ki saja di jayegi. Pahle to logo me maut ki saja ka dar baith gya lekin kuch dino baad har aaropi hatya ya balatkaar ke aarop me aane lga. Kaaran rajya me kuch aise log bhi the jo nirapradh logo ko uksaane lge ki pahli galti to maf hai fir kya dar. Raja ko samajhne me der nahi lagi or usne turat apna decision badal dia.
Ab agar aap soch rahe hain ki is kahani ka or aapke bachche ka kya lena dena hai to aap is kahani ko dobara padhiye or tab tak padhte rahiye jab tak aapko iske pichhe ka hint na samajh aa jaye. Is kahani ka matalb mai aapko article ke end me bataunga lekin agar aapko sach me is kahani ka koi sambandh aapke bachche ki parvarish se samajh nahi aya to please dobaara is kahani ko jarur padhe fir aage badhe.
Aapka bachcha pahli galati kare ya bar baar kre agar aap ise serious nahi le rahe hain to ab lena shuru kijiye.
Ek rumar (afwaah) hai kyoki maine pets (paaltu jaanwar) to kabhi nahi paale is liye maine iska practicle nahi kia. Lekin aap logo se share jarur karna chahunga. Log pets (jyadatar dog par aajmaya hua) paalte hai to use ghumane ke liye subah subah ghar se baahar le jaate hain. Iske saath unka main purpose ye hota hai ki dog gandagi bhi bahar hi kare or ghar ganda na kare. Fir bhi kuch pets parshan krte hain or ghar me hi gandagi karte hain. Iske liye kuch log jab dog ko pahli baar laate hain or wo ghar par gandagi karta hai to wo dog ko us gandagi ke paas le jaakar khich kar ek chappal maarte hain. Waise to ye idea kafee kaargar sabit hota hai or dog ko pahli hi baar me samajh me aa jata hai ki usne kya galti kar di or agar kuch kasar rah jaati hai to dusari baar me wo pura sabak le chuke hote hain. Aur result ye nikalta hai ki agar wo chain se bandh diye jaaye to bhi gandgi ghar ke andar nahi krte. Chappal ka istemaan isliye kia jata hai kyoki jaanwar bejubaan hote hai unko bolkar samjhana muskil hota hai. Lekin maar se unhe ye sabak milta hai ki unhone galti kar di or 'pahli baar ki galti' me hi ye maar isliye lagayi jaati hai ki unki aadat na ban jaaye. Yani ki aage ki paresani na ho isiliye.
Insaan me achchayi ye hai ki wo bol bhi sakta hai or sun or samajh bhi sakta hai. Isliye in chijo ki jaroorat nahi pdti. Aapko sirf in sab me sirf ek chij assume krni 'pahli baar ki galti' par gaur karne ki.
Yahan ye batana jaruri tha halaaki baat aapke bachche ki chal rahi thi or maine pets ko bhi samajha dala ki gandgi kahan karni hai. ☺
Agar baat aapke bachche ki chal rahi hai to use sirf aapke ek daant (डाँट) ki jarurat hai wo bhi tab jab wo pahli galti kare.
Pahli galti or aapka ignore karna use is baat ka feel deta hai ki aapke bachche ne koi galat kaam nahi kia. Pahli galti or agar aapne uska majaak bna ke hasi me liya to ye baat use ye feel degi ki usne galat nahi balki bahut hi acha kaam kia hai or ho sakta wo same thing aapke saamne wahin par dohraaye. Lekin Bachche ki pahli galti or aapki daant (डांट) use yah ehasaas dilayegi ki usne galti kar di hai yaani usne jo kia wo unethical hai matlab aap logo ki najar me thik nahi hai or aisi galtiyo par use aage dar bna rahega. Dar bahut badi chij hai chahe wo jis chij ke liye hai.
Agar aap unme se hain jo aisi activities hasi me lenge to matlab aapne notice kar lia hai ki aapke bachche ne kya kia lekin aapne uski mistake ko ignore kia to iska ek matlab ho sakta hai aapne notice hi na kia ho. To agar aapne ab tak aisi baat ko najarandaaz kia hai to agli baar jarur notice kre or ek chhota sa sabak jarur de taki use achche bure ka fark samay se pata chal jaaye. Kyoki agar ek baar koi bhi galti aapne 1 se 2 baar ignore ki to wo uski aadat me shumaar ho jayegi.
Ab baari aati hai aapke reaction ka aapke bachche pr kya effect padta hai. Agar bachcha itna samajhne layak hai ki aapki daant ko samajh sake to ho sakta hai wo iske reply me aapke saath aise pesh aaye ki ' jaise usne itni badi galti to nahi ki jitna aapne use daant dia ' to use pyar se samajhaye ki galti akhir galti hoti hai. Or aage se ise na dohraye. Kuch kam samajhdar bachcho par aapki ye daant hi kaafi hai unhe or kuch bataane ki jarurat nahi hai. Is tarah bas ek ya do treat ke baad aapko iska result milne lagega.
Meri upar di hui kahani ka is article se matlab. Dusari galti par sajaa sabko maloom hote huye bhi log pahli galti ka pura fayda uthane lage. Kyoki pahla apraadh maaf tha.
Isliye jab tak aap ignore karte jayenge tab tak unki galti unki najar me galti nahi hogi. Wo to saari normal activities jaisi hi hogi. Or jis din aap unhe pahli baar unki galti ke liye tokenge 'wo hogi unki pahli galti'. Or PAHLI GALTI MAAF ka siddhant to bahut purana hai to.
Mujhe ummed hai maine bahut hi saral tarike se aapko ye bta dia ki bachche ki pahli galti ignore kare ya na kare. Is post se sirf aapko yah ehasas krana tha ki kahi aapke bachche ke moh me aapse koi galti to nahi ho rahi. Mer khyal se aapke dimag me ab aisa khyaal kabhi nahi aayega ki mera bachcha galtiyo pe galtiya karta hai mai kya kru? Aur haan bachche ko iske liye treat ya daant bhi bade hi dhyan se dena hai jisse unke dil me aapke liye thoda dar baithe na ki kadwahat. Agar apke man me ise lekar koi sawaal hai to comment box me puch sakte hain. Happy living
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